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Why You Need Quiet Time With Yourself
Life is fast, too fast. We get everything but some quite time with ourselves. Years go by and when we look back, life makes us wonder, what we have done that had made our years meaningful and has brought solace to our souls. No matter how successful and big we may become, we cannot be bigger than our individual self. It is like seeing ourselves in a mirror and talking to our real self about things that our heart desires. To make that connection we need nothing but a quiet time with ourselves.
I love to have some quite time with myself. It is the time when I shut down everything that has potential to disturb me as I dedicate a few minutes only to myself. I know that it can be tough but it is not impossible. The most important part is developing the habit of having a quiet time and soon you would discover how powerful and easy the complete process is.
Below is a list of top 10 things of why you should have a quiet time and how you can have a quiet time. Try any one of them and you would be surprised how one thing leads to other:
1) To Collect-You need quiet time to collect your senses and thoughts. In such a hectic life this time would help you to get your act together.
2) To Compose- The quiet time will help you to compose your thoughts. The mind is full of continual stimuli. The quiet time will give you an opportunity to compose your thoughts.
3) To Care- You, your body, your mind, your soul need to focus your energy in the same direction. Distractions will come but having direction is a must. A quiet time shows that you are purposeful and you care about you.
4) To Decide- Confused, not able to make a decision, don’t worry. Give a quiet time to yourself and you would see myriad of possibilities that would help you decide with much ease.
5) To Plan-Planning is not an easy process. You need quiet time to put the pieces together and answer complex questions that are
hard to solve.
6) To Dream- You dream almost every moment but dreams that are dreamt in your quiet time makes us serious about them. Such dreams are our priorities and the ones that our heart desire. Only quiet time has the power to unravel them.
7) To Check- Each one of us needs feedback and to put a check on where things are going in life. Quiet times make it possible by giving us some personal minutes to connect to ourselves and calibrate the direction.
8) To Motivate- Success comes only through a dedicated effort which only in turn is possible through motivation. Small intimate quiet times of motivation can help you be on track of your goals.
9)To Not Break- The best way to break yourself is by taking the quiet time out. Flexibility comes with margin. Life moves too quickly for you to not move with it. Take a break.
10) To Be Yourself- A normal human being puts on different masks in different situations. We are essentially not real to ourselves when we are with others. A quiet time gives us an opportunity to see the real us and keep the connection running.
Life is full of surprises. There are plenty of challenges around waiting for us to be converted. But everything in life needs a booster and that is possible only when you take a quiet time to be introspective. Quiet time is your real personal period that is yours and yours only. It is an effective medium to discover the joy knowing and being YOU.
The Power of Journal Writing
Journal writing is a powerful and useful technique... but many of us have major blocks when it comes to the thought of writing ... "I'm not a writer!"... "what would I write??"... "I don't know where to start!!"... "what do I say?"
Does this sound familiar? These were a few thoughts running through my head when I first heard about the benefits of journal writing and contemplated giving it a go.
Once I started my journal, it became addictive... in the very best sense!
How to get started:
- get yourself a large notebook, writing pad, diary, personal journal, or set yourself up with a folder on your computer, that is specifically where you will do your writing
- you can hand write or use a computer. Handwriting is more flexible because you can do your journal writing wherever you want e.g. in the park, in the car or wherever you get the urge -- sometimes you are not anywhere where you can access your computer
- find a place where you can keep your journal where no one else can see it or find it -- your journal is very private!
- your journal writing is for your eyes only! You are not writing an academic article or an assignment or something that is going to be read by any other person but you!
- when you first start, your writing may feel stilted or awkward... just keep going and soon you'll find thoughts will begin to flow and you'll begin writing almost automatically. Sometimes I don't think I will write any more than a couple of lines... but once I get going, it begins to flow and sometimes I end up with a couple of pages
- it doesn't matter if you write only a couple of words or a saga! Length isn't important
- in the beginning, I found I was trying to make my writing look good and read properly -- because your journal writing is only for you, don't worry about grammar, punctuation, neatness, making sense, or sentence structure. The key is to just write, write and write!
- it's beneficial to date every entry e.g. Wednesday 19/3/08. This is useful when you want to reread your journal; you can see how you were going at a certain time in your life compared to where you are now.
- in the beginning, it can be useful to set aside a certain period of the day where you do your writing; this isn't always possible because of commitments, schedules and responsibilities... but try to do some journal writing each day
- journal writing is a very personal experience... therefore there is no right or wrong way for doing it... you will find your own way and it will be perfect!
